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Growing up in an alcoholic family is certainly traumatic In these homes children experience a daily environment of inconsistency chaos fear abandonment denial and real or potential violence Survival becomes a full-time job While most of us know that alcoholism is a disease too few recognize it as a family disease which may emotionally spiritually and often physically affect not only the alcoholic but each member of the family Little emotional energy remains to consistently fulfill the many needs of children who become victims of the family illness For many years professional psychologists were barely aware of the vast pool of suffering of the family of alcoholics They concentrated on healing the alcoholic and felt that it solved the problems of the family as well Today they realize that the whole family suffers this sickness and all must be made well By looking at what it is like to live in a alcoholics home the side effects and how to cope with the problem there will be evidence to see how the disease negatively affects the children Children will record their parents actions at their worst When Mom and Dad are most out of control they are the most threatening to the childs survival The childs survival alarm registers these behaviours the most deeply creating shame Any subsequent shame experience which even vaguely resembles that past trauma can easily trigger the words and scenes of said trauma What are then recorded are the new experience and the old Over time an accumulation of shame scenes are attached together Each new scene potentates the old sort of like a snowball rolling down a hill getting larger and larger as it picks up snow As the years go on very little is needed to trigger these collages of shame memories Shame as an emotion has now become frozen and embedded into the core of the persons identity Children of alcoholics grow up trying to control their parents
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